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It’s so easy to get swept up in the fake ‘reality’ of the world, especially with social media being right at our fingertips. Even when we know what you see is photoshopped or exaggerated, we still have the tendency to let it affect the way we see ourselves. That all stops when we learn how to be unapologetically ourselves.

Not sure where to start? Start here:

1. Discover Who You Are

Do you actually know who you are, inside? Who is your real and genuine self? Are you loud and bubbly or shy and reserved? Do you like voicing your opinion, or listening to others? What do you like? What hobbies do you want to try?

For example, I decided I love chatting to people and being as open as possible. I don’t care to hold back and I rarely find things “too personal”. I love to workout, but I also love frozen yogurt. I truly don’t care what people think or say about me because, quite frankly, I love myself. It took me awhile to get here, but here I am, and I won’t apologize for it!

2. Stop Questioning What You Should be Doing, and Start Doing the Damn Thing.

Stop second-guessing the things that you want to do because you are afraid you will look stupid. We question ourselves enough because of our values, so why should we add more doubt in fear of offending other people. If you want to do something, do it. Life is too short to second guess your every move.

Go with your heart. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. If something feels right, do it. It’s as simple as that. Trust your gut, girlfriend!

3. Stop Caring What People Think.

I know it’s easier said than done, but this is the biggest step that will help you live an unapologetic life. Not everyone is going to like you, just like you don’t like every person you meet. You can’t take it personally. If you live your life trying to please everyone, you’re likely pleasing no one, especially yourself.

At the end of the day, it’s just you, so make sure you like that person. Visualize your best self, then start showing up as her. Once you become who you want to be, you will experience true happiness. Have sympathy for the people who are mean to you, they are fighting a fight too. Show up as yourself, and you will be amazed at how many people actually flock to you. Everyone wants to be their truest self, so being yours opens the door for them to be theirs too.

4. Do Something That Scares You and Excites You at the Same Time.

Start doing things, big or small, that freak you out to your core and also excite you at the same time. Things like reaching out to your biggest inspiration and telling them how much they have impacted your life. This was something I did frequently with everyone who made a difference in my life. I even got a few replies.

At first, I HATED getting in front of the camera to chat. The though of being vulnerable on social media posts terrified me, but I wanted to do it. What if people judge me? Unfollow me? What if they talk about me to other people and laugh? Guess what… ALL OF THOSE THINGS HAPPENED. Even family members and close friends unfollowed me. But you know what else happened? People reached out to me and said I inspired them to show up as themselves. I reconnected with old friends. I made new ones. I got asked to speak at events. I joined networking groups. 

As I started to become my authentic self, magic happened. Magic that I truly don’t believe would have happened had I stayed in my shell. I gained a new confidence that I never thought possible.

5. Shine Baby, Shine.

Once you figure out who you are, stand up and shine. Don’t let another day go by where you aren’t yourself. Life is too short and too fleeting to be scared of being who you want to be. The universe has a funny way of opening doors for authenticity.

Be proud of your weird, awkward, loud, and beautiful self. Be proud to be a breath of fresh air in a world of choking normality. Do whatever the hell you want to do, and do it proudly. You got this girl.

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